I will say 90% of our prayers are always asking for something. Whatever it is we have, we ask for something more, or at least for the things to stay the way they are.

No matter how atheist you think you are, no matter in what you believe, when you are in big need, when you need a miracle, you look up, you close your eyes, get on your knees or whatever ritual you are performing and you read your list.

Now when you ask for something, consciously or unconsciously means you are in need, which implies that whatever you have is not enough. How can you expect, to feel complete, to feel happy, to feel good, when you know you need something for those feelings to happen?

You exclude the idea that happiness can happen for no reason. Just being. Because the way you have been made to think, is that for a any feeling you need to do something.

You feel that the world, how it is right now is not enough. You think that things would be better if it where the way you think. Sometimes when we ask for something which is not for us, we are led to think it is selfless, but it affects you in a certain way, so to a small percentage you still ask for yourself.

You think praying for the health of your family is so selfless, but still if the family is sick you feel bad. If you pray for the well being of your partner, you think is selfless, but still his wellness is affecting you directly. 

Asking is like going to a Dj and tell him which music he should play, going to a painter and tell him what to paint, somebody coming to you and telling you how to do your job. The way you feel when a manager, your chief or whomever you consider knows less then you, comes and tell you how the job should be done. So automatically you feel frustrated, deranged, attacked or whatever “who does he think he is, to tell me how to do what I do best…??”. Always somebody is trying to change you, because they think their opinion and way of seeing things is better than yours. Same thing you thing about God.

Now God, Universe everyone know you are wrong, but still they say “Ok I will do the things your way”, so you can suffer your own decisions. I don’t care, i ll do things your way.

A Dj will change the music, a painter will do your painting, god will grant your wish.

In the process you may feel happy, for a while at least, but everyone around you will suffer your choices, your individuality and poor taste in music, art, life. You see the consequences of your thinking and you realize, you might have been wrong.

You need a better job, someone else needs to be fired. You want a bigger house a mountain has to be cut. A beautiful coat, an animal has to die. An amazing car, the environment get polluted. You ask for love, the lover comes but he’s an alcoholic. You ask for a bike and that bike is getting you in an accident. 

You might get happy for a while, but it will not last. After sometime a new wish comes into your mind, if you look at it, with a brain, is a never ending process.

The way you wish for things so are others, others also want a better life. So they wish for a job you get fired ! for someone else, now life is not good 🙂 god is doing a bad job. 

“I have to pray, he seems he forgot about me and what I want, he s got amnesia I have to remind him.”

So your wishes should be granted, but not for others. That is how you want the world to work. What you want is ok, others should be neglected. The way it works, you live on the misery of others.

When you feel like something is missing from your life, that is the energy you create, that is what you will attract, missing will attract more missing. The energy makes no difference, you attract what you are. Look at your friends, your environment, it looks like what you wanted in a certain percentage. If you are really honest, almost all of your wishes came true, it is just that, it is a distortioned version of what you have believed it will be.

So instead of asking of what you think you need, be grateful, pray with gratitude. Let yourself surprised by life. Let god do his job and you do yours. He knows what you really need and sometimes is not what you want. But it will get you further than, what you want.

Instead of looking for what’s missing, be grateful for what it is. The only reason of your unhappiness is that you have lost perspective on life. You have forgot how lucky you really are. So a disease, a disaster, a marriage broken, someone dying, someone begging has to remind you where you are, so you become grateful again, at least for a period of time 🙂

Heaven is already here, it is just a question of enhancing your perception on life. Be
sensitive and observe.

Self-realization. Wake up from ignorance. Open your mind. Don’t get stuck in your own beliefs. Change, embrace change. Accept what it is, rather what you think it should be.

You don’t even know if you have 2 gallbladders, 1 stomach, you don t even remember the date of birth of your mother 🙂 but you want to change the whole universe. From where this kind of mentality comes? Be honest with yourself, you know nothing. So just trust and try to manage to the best of your potential whatever is coming. Be sensitive, try not to harm others in your process, make your wishes benefit everyone, we are all a family on this planet, we all want to live good and have a healthy society. So share your wealth and well-being, help others realized theirs. Whatever you want for yourself, try doing for others.

 

   

Lumbar/lower back is one of the regions I see a lot of us struggle with. It seems the whole world is experiencing this. It can lead to disk herniation, inflammation of sciatic nerve, In some cases to surgery, any scenario is to be avoided but how? 

It seems like a lot of people are showing signs of pain in this region and I was trying to understand it. It often happened to me also, after long hours of working standing on my feet I would feel the most painful part of the body is in my lumbar.

It was because of shoes, it was because of bad posture, but mostly because of my thoughts.
I was talking with someone who recently had a surgery on the lumbar, after long pains, after sitting in bed for days, feeling with every breath the sciatic nerve. It eventually ended with surgery.

Now this person was active, sporty, good food and healthy lifestyle, not a cigarette or alcohol, not lifting weights, not a sedentary lifestyle. Doctors would say it shouldn’t had happened.

But still, how come it happened? Or what was the cause of it?

We talked about the period when this was starting. It had to do with work. With this person working double (mentally) feeling used, unappreciated, abused, a situation you cannot run from because your job depends on. Having this feelings not only on him/her but also on the person who left him/her with all this to deal with.

But from mind and thoughts and feelings all the way to the body, seems like such a long way, or almost impossible to believe…

We say it is fatigue, postural imbalance, a lack of strength in the back and abdomen especially. But then how come, most of the people are siting, doing office job, some are in an amazing shape and know how to protect themselves, but they are  also the ones  which are getting surgery on their lumbar or experiencing pain in that area and there are some, no abdomen no back muscles, with a good attitude who remain untouched by this.

Trough postures and exercises I try to correct this, in me and those around me, but it seems it is more than this.

This year my experience with India was a more subtle one, moving to the mind, moving to the thoughts. Whatever we are suppressing, or denying, the things we are aware or unaware of, moving through all the known layers: conscious, unconscious, subconscious.

Whatever we are unaware of, the body, sooner or later will point out those things. We stock different emotions, on different parts of the body. So it is not really the body who is stiff 🙂 or a specific part of the body, it is us who are unwilling to deal with “old shit”.

It seems like whatever bad thought, emotion, feeling we experience, we are trying to bury or suppress it. We create more and more garbage every day, but one day is going to come out, one way or another, often trough a disease, giving you enough time to think about your past or future.

I really loved the way the word “disease” was dissected by someone “dis-ease” when we are not at ease, when we are not relaxed, when we are troubled by something.

Now on the opposite side of the lumbar/lower back you have your 2^nd chakra svadhisthana.

Energetically on this chakra we can talk about 3 things:

Deficit you are resentful, shy, freeze with fear, sexual guilt, un-trusting, buries emotions.

Excessive you become aggressive, see others as sexual objects, manipulating, volatile emotions, self-serving.

Balanced you are creative, friendly, intuitive, concern for others, attuned to feelings.

It is also called the OLD STUFF center : Childhood conditioning, violation of body and personal space, something done to us or taken from us without our permission, molestation, abuse rape, frigidity, impotence.

The behavioral Barometer of the body says when we experience pain in that area:

At conscious level you might have experienced–> Resentment –> Hurt, used, abused, unappreciated, embarrassed, dumb, offended.

At a subconscious level: Grief and guilt–->Betrayed, conquered, discouraged, unacceptable, ruined, defeated, self-punishing

Now it seems that even if you do massages, take medicine, trying to correct your posture,
strengthening your core, after a period you are back to square 1, back to the pain.

Every single disease, imbalance, we experience has a source, the rigidity you find in your body, is the rigidity you will experience in your mind, emotions. Probably you will find yourself a very balanced person, in tune with spirituality, a man of God, but you also feel, if you are honest, there is still space for improvement in this perfect person that you are.

Be honest with yourself, at least with yourself. Try to find the period when the pain had started, try to find what was the reason, why where you feeling the way you were feeling, is it the work, is it the way you feel about yourself? Is it the relationship you have, or is it just something you are trying to deal with for a long time, is it something old from childhood, whatever it is take some time for introspection.

Try performing a new action, or activity that will make you feel:

(For resentment use interest) fascinated, needed, welcomed, appreciated, essential, caring, tuned-in.

(Replace grief and guilt with equality) lucky, involved, sincere, productive, purposeful, co-operative.

Correct your posture. Work for a strong core. Learn how to use your body and breathe in different activity in your life so you experience less of this unpleasantness.

Or just come to yoga 🙂 .

One good thing about being sick is you will realize how much we need one another, how weak we really are sometimes, how important is to help others, that being humble is not a weakness is the way to approach everything.

So a disease from time to time 🙂 it is a blessing. It is a lessons when we are so busy with life, to come back and analyze things, look at our life and change it. Adjust it to nature.

Before you judge 🙂 before you create again your own silly opinions 🙂 any excuse not to change this “perfection” you call yourself 🙂 be open to new things 🙂 embrace new mentalities 🙂 And know no matter how big you are, there is always someone bigger 🙂 The only thing that is everlasting, never changing, is truth.

Every emotions is affecting the body and conversely the body is affecting your mind. The body you hold today is just a manifestation of your thoughts. If we cannot change or control what we think or feel, let s try to correct how we sit or breath. The mind will follow the body.